Friday, December 18, 2009

Giving of Yourself - Dec. 18

It isn't what you have that counts, it's what you give. Giving of yourself can fill your world with joy, purpose, and contentment.

Today we read 3 Nephi 13: 19 - 21
19 Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where amoth and rust doth corrupt, and thieves break through and steal;
20 But lay up for yourselves atreasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal.
21 For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.

We read the following story - again, one of my favorites.

Christmas Day in the Morning

By Pearl S. Buck

He woke suddenly and completely. It was four o'clock, the hour at which his father had always called him to get up and help with the milking. Strange how the habits of his youth clung to him still! Fifty years ago, and his father had been dead for thirty years, and yet he waked at four o'clock in the morning. He had trained himself to turn over and go to sleep, but this morning it was Christmas, he did not try to sleep.

Why did he feel so awake tonight? He slipped back in time, as he did so easily nowadays. He was fifteen years old and still on his father's farm. He loved his father. He had not known it until one day a few days before Christmas, when he had overheard what his father was saying to his mother.

"Mary, I hate to call Rob in the mornings. He's growing so fast and he needs his sleep. If you could see how he sleeps when I go in to wake him up! I wish I could manage alone."

"Well, you can't, Adam." His mother's voice was brisk. "Besides, he isn't a child anymore. It's time he tok his turn."

"Yes," his father said slowly. "But I sure do hate to wake him."

When he heard these words, something in him spoke: his father loved him! He had never thought of that before, taking for granted the tie of their blood. Neither his father nor his mother talked about loving their children--they had no time for such things. There was always so much to do on the farm.

Now that he knew his father loved him, there would be no loitering in the mornings and having to be called again. He got up after that, stumbling blindly in his sleep, and pulled on his clothes, his eyes shut, but he got up.

And then on the night before Christmas, that year when he was fifteen, he lay for a few minutes thinking about the next day. They were poor, and most of the excitement was in the turkey they had raised themselves and mince pies his mother made. His sisters sewed presents and his mother and father always bought him something he needed, not only a warm jacket, maybe, but something more, such as a book. And he saved and bought them each something, too.

He wished, that Christmas when he was fifteen, he had a better present for his father. As usual he had gone to the ten-cent store and bought a tie. It had semed nice enough until he lay thinking the night before Christmas. He looked out of his attic window, the stars were bright.

"Dad," he had once asked when he was a little boy, "What is a stable?"

"It's just a barn," his father had replied, "like ours."

Then Jesus had been born in a barn, and to a barn the shepherds had come...

The thought struck him like a silver dagger. Why should he not give his father a special gift too, out there in the barn? He could get up early, earlier than four o'clock, and he could creep into the barn and get all the milking done. He'd do it alone, milk and clean up, and then when his father went in to start the milking he'd see it all done. And he would know who had done it. He laughed to himself as he gazed at the stars. It was what he would do, and he musn't sleep too sound.

He must have waked twenty times, scratching a match to look each time to look at his old watch -- midnight, and half past one, and then two o'clock.

At a quarter to three he got up and put on his clothes. He crept downstairs, careful of the creaky boards, and let himself out. The cows looked at him, sleepy and surprised. It was early for them, too.

He had never milked all alone before, but it seemed almost easy. He kept thinking about his father's surprise. His father would come in and get him, saying that he would get things started while Rob was getting dressed. He'd go to the barn, open the door, and then he'd go get the two big empty milk cans. But they wouldn't be waiting or empty, they'd be standing in the milk-house, filled.

"What the--," he could hear his father exclaiming.

He smiled and milked steadily, two strong streams rushing into the pail, frothing and fragrant.

The task went more easily than he had ever known it to go before. Milking for once was not a chore. It was something else, a gift to his father who loved him. He finished, the two milk cans were full, and he covered them and closed the milk-house door carefully, making sure of the latch.

Back in his room he had only a minute to pull off his clothes in the darkness and jump into bed, for he heard his father up. He put the covers over his head to silence his quick breathing. The door opened.

"Rob!" His father called. "We have to get up, son, even if it is Christmas."

"Aw-right," he said sleepily.

The door closed and he lay still, laughing to himself. In just a few minutes his father would know. His dancing heart was ready to jump from his body.

The minutes were endless -- ten, fifteen, he did not know how many -- and he heard his father's footsteps again. The door opened and he lay still.

"Rob!"

"Yes, Dad--"

His father was laughing, a queer sobbing sort of laugh.

"Thought you'd fool me, did you?" His father was standing by his bed, feeling for him, pulling away the cover.

"It's for Christmas, Dad!"

He found his father and clutched him in a great hug. He felt his father's arms go around him. It was dark and they could not see each other's faces.

"Son, I thank you. Nobody ever did a nicer thing--"

"Oh, Dad, I want you to know -- I do want to be god!" The words broke from him of their own will. He did not know what to say. His heart was bursting with love.

He got up and pulled on his clothes again and they went down to the Christmas tree. Oh what a Christmas, and how his heart had nearly burst again with shyness and pride as his father told his mother and made the younger children listen about how he, Rob, had got up all by himself.

"The best Christmas gift I ever had, and I'll remember it, son every year on Christmas morning, so long as I live."

They had both remembered it, and now that his father was dead, he remembered it alone: that blessed Christmas dawn when, alone with the cows in the barn, he had made his first gift of true love.


Our song today has a great message for the day - we sang "Have I Done Any Good?"

Today's suggested activities -

*Finish all of your Christmas shopping for others. If that is done, have a gift-wrapping party in your home where each kiddo wraps their gifts for others.

*If you haven't already, visit your Home Teaching, Visiting Teaching families today.

*Take a homemade treat to members of your bishopric, ward missionaries, or others who serve you. Make sure you leave it anonymously.

*Begin a Family Service Star - This has become a family tradition for us for years. The family I gleaned the idea from does theirs for the whole month of Dec. but we discovered that with only one child, the last week before Christmas worked best for us. The idea is to encourage service within our family. Sometimes we spend so much of our time helping others and our family gets the leftover time. Also, I wanted to encourage my kiddo (and our foster kids over the years) to serve each other.

Find or make a star. I bought a $1.79 twig star spray painted gold at JoAnn's. One family member begins by doing a service for another family member and leaves the star near the deed. Now that family member is now "it" and does a deed for someone else, leaving the star for them to find. Hands down this has been one of our best family traditions. I remember when Ryan was really little he had a hard time finding things that he could do. One day Tim came home for a few minutes and for some reason took his shoes off. A few minutes later he went to put them back on and they were missing. When he asked what happened, Ryan gleefully told him that he had helped him and put them in his closet and now it was Daddy''s turn for the Service Star! It has been so much fun to make beds, do chores, perform small acts for each other and then let the recipient find the star. In larger families, you don't always know which family member did the service or who has the star. So much fun!

So, as I said, this is a big tradition for us. Weeks ago, I was looking at the calendar and realized that Ry would be leaving for Tim's today so I decided that we would do our Service Star this past week - his last week home. And. then. I. forgot.

I remembered last night. My heart ached. In a way, it wouldn't feel like Christmas without the Service Star. Traditions are called traditions because they happen every year, not just when you feel like it, or remember them. Aaaarrrgghh. My heart felt anew how this Christmas is going to be different than any other because it is the first Christmas in 12 years that Ryan will not be here.

I didn't say anything to Ryan when last night, he brought it up. I explained the situation and apologized. I lamely suggested that we could do it when he came home. He thought for a minuted and then he came up a solution that will work for us. We are going to take turns being "it" and will report to each other the service that we have done that day when we talk on the phone. I am so grateful for him. My heart felt at peace. And I am so thankful for this tradition that has instilled in him and desire & willingness to serve others, especially his family.

And lastly, our Red Envelope activity was to see the lights. We found a super cool neighbor fairly close that has the lights set to music on your radio station. SOOO COOL! We had never seen that before and we loved it. So much fun!

Tonight's Red Envelope will be to get Starbuck's hot chocolates for our drive out to meet his day. I have pictures for this post, but I am out of time to get them on. I will do it tonight.

Merry Christmas!





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